food for thought

this is for the lovers, dreamers, romantic pple and the list goes on..

1st thing,
what is love?
who actually knows what love is?
and how it feels like to be in love?
why does anyone need love?
do we find love or does love find us?
who is the right person? what makes u so sure he/she is the one?

1 thing i've come to realise over time:
sex is cheap; and love is non-existent.

does this statement sound wrong to u?
but seriously, before u tink any less of me or my thots, do spend some time to tink abt wad i jus said.
if this statement is untrue, den why do pple get hurt?

dere's no such thing as "it wasnt on purpose" or "i din mean for it to happen". cos truth is, it did happen.
yup sometimes pple dun really mean to hurt one another.
but for selfish reasons, choices have to be made.
obviously at the expense of others.

love isnt always fun, laughter, peace and joy
it's abt being able to see each other thru ups and downs.
its abt being comfortable but not to the extent of taking one another for granted.
it's abt sharing, kindness, patience, tolerance, perseverance, forgiveness, care, and all these things.
but sometimes i guess pple lose focus. their minds and hearts go all over the place.
they just lose touch. lose feelings, lose emotions, lose everything.
but 1 thing remains, memories.

why do some pple put in so much effort but end up getting hurt so badly?
time and time again.
is he/she really so worth it? how do u noe he/she is really worth it? wad makes u so sure u cant find anyone better?
wad makes u tink u cant find another love of ur life?
if u dun try, u'll nvr know.

dun be too quick to presume dat u'll nvr find happiness again.
nvr tink negatively.
always tell urself ure stronger den u tink and dat u can achieve far greater things if only u put ur heart, mind and soul into it.
nothing is impossible when u hav God with u.
seek solace in Him. he'll deliver u out of darkness.
trust me, i know.

God will nvr fail u.
it is u who must believe.
faith will guide u and help u out.
nvr wallow in self-pity cos dat is only for the weak.
it's all in the mind.
u have to tell urself u can do it.
put ur mind to it and push urself.
it aint gonna be ez.
but at the end of it all, when u made it thru,
u'll be proud. u'll be glad u did it.

pain and suffering is temporary, glory lasts a lifetime.

of cos things jus wont be the same without the special him/her
but life still goes on.
face it, the truth always hurts.
but its wad and how u deal with it dat makes u a stronger person.
things dont always go ur way.
u may not always like the way things happen,
but wad the heck, its not the end of the world.

last nite whilst driving home, i was listening to the radio,
suddenly an ad came on abt pregnancy hotline for teen girls,
those who r troubled, duno whether or not to keep the child, duno how to tell their parents etc etc.
thots & emotions triggered.
is it really that bad for these girls? and in wad ways?
hmm...


anyhow, go dwl and listen to this song by R.E.M.
truly meaningful. the lyrics are below:

When your day is long
and the night,
the night is yours alone,
when you're sure you've had enough of this life,
well hang on.
Don't let yourself go,
'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts
sometimes.

Sometimes everything is wrong.
Now it's time to sing along--
When your day is night alone,
hold on
if you feel like letting go,
if you think you've had too much of this life,
well hang on.

‘cause everybody hurts.
Take comfort in your friends.
Everybody hurts.

Don't throw your hand.
Oh, no. Don't throw your hand.
If you feel like you're alone, no, no, no,
you are not alone

If you're on your own in this life,
the days and nights are long,
when you think you've had too much of this life to hang on.
Well, everybody hurts--
sometimes--
everybody cries.
everybody hurts,
sometimes.
everybody hurts,
sometimes.
So, hold on,
hold on.

so girls and guys, pls protect urself, protect ur heart, but dun bcome overly cautious dat u start pushing pple away. den dats wrong.
take things slowly, let ur heart mend.
u have to know when ure ready to love again.
everyone can do better den dis.
dun feel sad. sadness is but a feeling. it cud always be changed to joy only if u want to.
cry, let ur emotions fly all over the place.
u deserve to feel how ure feeling but move on.
dun stay stagnant.
things are easier said den done, i know.
but as long as u persevere, u can do it.
heal that broken heart and move on.
easy come, easy go.
develop that mentality den nthg will go wrong for u.
u are responsible for ur own feelings, so
if u dun take care of urself, no one can.

frens and family can gif u a thousand and one advice,
but ultimately,
the tough work depends on u and u alone.
it's stressful and very tiring.
emotionally and mentally draining.
but like i said, with God all things are possible.
hang in there and be strong.
smile and the rest of the world will smile along with u =)